You know that feeling of saying something and while you know exactly what you're saying, your co-workers "just don't get it"? Chances are, it's not you (but hold on); chances are it's not them, either. It's both of you and your differing communication styles.
In her book, Why Can't You Communicate Like Me? (How Smart Women Get Results at Work) author/speaker Laura Browne describes the four personalities that you may come in contact with in the workplace: Brainy, Bossy, Bubbly, and Buddy. Which one are you? You can take the test on her website.
"Why Can't You..." explores the four distinct communication styles and offers suggestions on how to make your style mesh with that of your co-workers. Browne also helps you determine what you need to do with your own communication style to become a better fit with the team.
Each communication style is unique (the test was eye-opening for me) and each brings with it its own challenges and benefits. Once you determine which you are, you can tweak those portions of your communication style that may need to be tweaked. She asks, "How do others see you at work?" and, "What does this mean for you?"
Briefly:
1) Bossy communicators -- speak clearly and directly and say what they want to communicate. They appear confident and in-charge.
2) Bubbly types -- are friendly and communicative; they creatively discuss the positive aspects of situations and use their words to motivate others.
3) The Buddy -- is someone who asks about other's feelings; they are good listeners and confidants. They take time to consider all opinions before jumping into a project.
4) Brainy communicators -- are known for being quiet and methodical; they communicate in a structured manner and carefully consider their words before speaking.
Which one are you and where do your strengths (and weaknesses) lie? Take the test and find out. It may help you succeed at work and that's what we all want, right?
(Post by Robbi Hess)
We just need to listen more and tell people what we mean exactly rather than expecting them to know because they should know how we feel and think!
Posted by: Georgios | 09/11/2011 at 06:16 PM